Saturday, July 14, 2018

Susah senang bersama

He previously resigned from his work cause he wasn't paid well for that kind of hours and duties.
He rented a van out using his last paycheck without any savings to last till his new venture pan out.
To date, he has not paid the mortgage for July 2018; as the due date for that is on every first of the current month.
The next payment will be on 1st August.

House Renovation.
Up till today, nothing has been done except to pay our appointed ID; the deposit.
Our savings are not much to pay the renovation, aircon, lights and furniture.
Yet with all the bills and the mortgage, how would he be able to save some cash for the reno now... That boggles me.

All these plans he has to have a better life are definitely worth sacrificing ourselves BUT it has to be discussed between yourself and your partner.
Not everyone else.
But he didn't.

I wasnt aware that he resigned cause he couldn't take it anymore with his job/politics/company.

I am his wife. Till death do us part. But why am I left out when important decisions are made.

4 months to go before we have to start packing to move out to make way for his sister and her husband.

Then where will we be staying?
God knows.

This is how my married life is.




Monday, June 25, 2018

FJ

22nd June 2018;
9th Syawal.

Assalamualaikum FJ.
I found out about your passing, from an IG post of our mutual friend, Khairi.
It took me by surprise and shocked. I searched your IG and FB profiles, trying to appease myself that it was fake news or just some cruel joke someone decided to play on all of us.
Khairi had to break the news to me.

You were gone whilst doing the thing you've loved. You loved outdoors, the adrenaline rush of any activities. You loved the beach, you loved trance. you loved your friends and your friends love you too.
You became a hero in our eyes. You left us as a warrior that you already were. You were as selfless as always. You saved your buddy.

The turnout from your burial ceremony was amazing. Your childhood gang, your schoolmates, your NS mates, your Rota batch, your ex-colleagues, your friends, and lastly, your old acquaintance me.

we were an item back then; Circa 2013, 2014.
no one really knew what we had, what we shared cause both of us were really hush-hush on our affairs. We didn't share any photos of us together to anyone. We went to JB countless times for movie marathons, Batam for quick getaways, late night desserts or food fixes. it was an adventure. It was and still is amazing to me during those times.

we had our highs and lows. we argued and fought, laughed and made up.

when we were trying to sort things out, we went to ASOT 360 KL separately.
But out of some weird coincidences, we bumped into one another several times.
I remembered vividly, you came over to me at KL Berjaya Times Square on the last day. You asked me how the trip and ASOT was. where I was residing, my bus departure timing and all the small talk.

We were still on and off whilst in Singapore, and we ended things when I decided to go ahead and be friends with people you didn't approve of.
Even though you didn't agree to all those things I did, we still hung out one last time at the Jurong Lake Park. And just talked. there is a photo of "us" being there in your profile. You told me you will never be ready to settle until you pass the age mark 30. I guess you have stayed true to your words.

For all the times when we were close, thank you for being there for me and pampering me all the gifts. Thank you for letting me be a part of your life; even if it was a short while.
I am forever thankful that our paths crossed.

goodbye Fir.
I'll remember and miss you.